So my teenage daughter comes in the other day and, I guess, doesn't like the way hubby is looking at her so she asks “what do you want?” in a kind of snotty way.

Quick as a flash, he replies - “ooh – I'll have a cappuccino – extra hot -  and one of those tasty little muffins, thanks for asking!!”

OK, I know that isn't what she meant and I also know that his chances of getting anything except an eye roll and a head shake were about zero,

but isn't that the million dollar question hovering underneath – well - everything? What do I want? In any given moment what am I spending my precious time, attention and resources on? And why? What motivates me? Where am I going, and why? What matters most? And how do I even know?

I think it's a pretty urgent and relevant question.